How to Think Positive About Yourself – 3 Fail Proof Techniques to Kick Self Doubt To the Curb!
Many of us didn’t grow up in families that were conducive to loving ourselves. Even those of you who did grow up in loving environments, we live in a society where self-doubt can easily kick in, just by comparing ourselves to others. In this article, I’ll give you 3 techniques that will show you how to think positive about yourself and kick self-doubt to the curb.
Technique #1 – The Mirror Exercise
Nothing is more powerful than looking yourself in the eye and saying the very thing you don’t believe about yourself. For instance, if you think you’re ugly, and you look in the mirror and say, “You are beautiful”, you’re going to get a lot of negative chatter in your head. But I swear, the mirror exercise works. I got this technique from Louis L. Hay.
The longer you stay in the mirror, the less that negative chatter will kick in. You’ll soon believe what you tell yourself in that mirror! After all, you hypnotized yourself with negative beliefs about yourself when you told yourself you were “bad” or “ugly” or “stupid”.
And it only takes 5 minutes a day. Make your affirmations short and to the point. Here’s how….
Use a Timer
You’ll need a timer for this exercise. You can use a clock, but I like the timer because at the sound of the bell, you know your time is up without having to keep looking at your watch or cell phone and thereby, distracting your concentration on the affirmation.
Set Up a Routine
The more consistent you are, the more you will come to believe in the affirmation. When learning how to love yourself by learning how to think positive about yourself, nothing is more important than consistency. Everyone can find 5 minutes out of their day!
Keep Your Affirmations Short
Keep your affirmations short and to the point. For instance, say something like, “I am smart” or “I am loveable” or “I deserve to be treated with respect. Shorter affirmations are easier to remember. Also, always use positive affirmations, as opposed to negative ones like, “I’m not ugly” or “I’m not stupid”.
Technique #2: Get Off Facebook
Nothing will make you feel worse than going on Facebook, scrolling through other people’s posts, and then feeling like you don’t measure up. Don’t believe the hype. You don’t know what’s really going on in a person’s life. And looks can be deceiving.
Looks Are Deceiving
People post things about themselves to give the appearance that they are doing better than they actually are. For instance, I know someone who posts pictures of themselves in front brand new luxury cars and posts them on Instagram. He doesn’t own those cars at all, nor can he afford them. I know he’s full of crap because I know him. But on Facebook, he looks like a rock star!
He wants people think he’s super successful and popular – which leads me to my next point.
Don’t Be Fooled By “Likes”
The thing about “likes” on Facebook – they can be bought. Yes. They can. And people do. I swear, when I read someone’s post, and I see they have 400 “likes”, if they’re not a celebrity, 9 out of 10 times it means they bought these likes. So, don’t go on facebook. If you have to go on Facebook, then only go on there to check your page. Don’t scroll or look at your friends’ status or your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend’s status.
Try this exercise:
Don’t check your Facebook messages or pages for a week. See how you feel. If you’re feeling a lot better, then you know Facebook is a problem for you. But what’s even better, is that you’ve now discovered that going on Facebook is counter productive to your learning how to think positive about yourself.
Technique #3 – Creative Visualization
You use your imagination all the time – often in a negative way. For years, I would wake up and immediately start visualizing all of the bad things that happened to me in the past. I always ended up having a bad day, and attracting more bad things to me. But then I discovered this program called Manifestation Miracle.
That program taught me how to visualize positive scenarios and how to draw positive things to me like magic. It’s really amazing. Here’s what happened to me after I started using creative visualization:
I Started Losing Weight
I struggled for 7 years in a horrible food relapse and gained 100 pounds. I kept trying to lose the weight, but I kept relapsing. Then I used this particular visualization technique, and I was suddenly able to stay on my food plan. So far, I’ve lost 46 pounds! I stopped struggling. I kept using this creative visualization technique and saw myself being successful in this area of my life.
Learning how to think positive about yourself is key to loving yourself. The time you invest in these techniques will be so worthwhile. Make the decision today that you’re going to start loving yourself. Then do what needs to be done to make it happen.
I’d love to hear your methods for learning how to think positive about yourself. Leave your comments below.
Well I’m 17 days into the program and I feel great – I am much calmer, I am organised, I have goals, I feel good about myself. I would have to say the best I have ever felt about myself. I am working through the tasks daily and feel myself getting stronger emotionally every day. Thank you so much!
Thank you so much for this post. I did the quiz and decided to bite the bullet and get the program and WOW is all I can say. I am onto day 5 of this new way of thinking and I’m feeling great. Thank you so much for the recommendation.
Wow! This is just what I needed to hear. I have a range of goals I want to achieve in 2018 and have broken them down into weekly and monthly steps to achieve them. However, I have the niggling self-doubt in my head – you’ve tried and failed before, you won’t achieve these etc. I keep pushing those thoughts down but they keep raising their heads. Off to take the Quiz! I want to learn what you have learned!
@Kashia: Wow. I’m so sorry. I too grew up with parents who were demeaning. I can only imagine that their own parents treated them with disdain, lack of respect and constant criticism.
My father hated women – yet he had 6 daughters. Every day, he’d try and tear me down. I still don’t like him, and he’s dead. But I’m working on forgiveness because it only holds me back.
I love these tips! I could almost cry. Those first few sentences hit me hard.
I didn’t grow up in a family where accomplishments were acknowledged, and even mentioning my dreams was an invitation for people to tell me how it wouldn’t work out. I come from a culture where parents would degrade their child, thinking it would encourage them to do better, but all it did was make the child see no value in themselves.
Even now, as an adult, I’m struggling to see value in myself from time to time. Thanks for the words of encouragement and advice.
@Penelope: Hi. I swear this stuff works! You’d be amazed.
I love the recommendations. Looking in the mirror can be so hard for some people but the more we feed our minds with positive affirmations, the more possible it seems.
Hi Ahmad. Thank you for your heartfelt response. Bullying can have such a definite impact on us. I’m glad you find the mirror exercise helpful. It really is powerful. Best of luck to you.
Hello Shalisha, thanks for the wonderful article discussing thinking positive about yourself. I used to have low self-esteem and didn’t love myself like I was supposed to. People would always talk bad about me and I was a victim of bullying. I felt like I was very worthless. I came across the mirror technique like you mentioned in your article. I would stare at the mirror for a long period of time and say to myself: I AM GREAT, I AM LOVED, I CAN DO THIS AND WILL DO THIS!!! This boosted my self esteem and I started to think positive about myself. I am not a really big fan of social media like I used to, majority of the time, it is used for business purposes only. I have been through a very tough life in the past, and I try not to think about it. Most of the time, I kick all of them negative thoughts out of my head and continue to focus on getting through the day. Thanks again for the wonderful blog, it is very motivating. I wish you the best of luck in your niche business!!!